Lost In Translation

Breaking News… I love comic books. Shocking, I know. I love reading them. Love looking at them. Really love explaining the stories. Because they’re cool in that way. Yes, we’re looking at the most fantastical characters wearing bright spandex and colorful costumes with the most incredibly awesome superpowers. They’re so wild and fanciful that we know they’re not real, but all at the same time, they remind us of real life lessons we learn in the safe confines of a comic book panel. Lessons like good and evil, greed vs selflessness, truth, justice and the American way. That kind of thing.

Let’s take the X-Men for example. Created by the legendary Stan Lee, the X-Men are a group of superheroes that gained their superpowers by being mutated humans at birth, which gives these heroes unique skills and abilities that regular humans do not have. They use these abilities to fight against the evil mutant, Magneto, a villain that’s also a mutant, but he believes his mutation makes mutants better than normal humans. When Stan Lee originally wrote the X-Men in the 1960s, the parallels with the Civil Rights Movement and the struggle of Black equality were clear. In the comic, mutants were treated differently and lesser than by normal humans and the X-Men fought against this perception and formed to show the world they are just as human and have every right to exist among other humans, much like Black Americans, who still struggle to do this and have since the 1960s and long before. Of course, Magneto feels that mutants are superior and he goes out his way to violently illustrate how dominate mutants are causing the X-Men to have to stop him and BAM, POW, SMASH- epic big superhero battle. So unrealistic. Fun to look at and read, but completely unreal. Humans with abilities that make them better than other humans aren’t really real. Certainly, this just comes right out of a comic book, right?

Well, of course. This is not any more realistic than one group ofhumans having to justify their existence and fair treatment and right to live free to other humans. But here we are.

In the picture above, the young lady in the middle is Lia Thomas. Born in Austin, Texas Lia found a passion for swimming at an early age. For as long as she could likely remember, she’s been jumping in a pool and swimming and she naturally got very good at it. By the time Lia was in high school, she wasn’t just among the best in the school, Lia was easily one of the best in the entire state of Texas. She recorded the sixth fasted time for the state championships. She was clearly very talented, skilled at something she had honed and gotten incredibly good at for well over a decade. However, there was one nagging issue. Lia was competing against boys. Which might sound strange until you realize that then Lia was known as Will and was living in a body that did not match who she felt she was inside.

Lia Thomas is a Transgender woman. She graduated from high school and enrolled into the University of Pennsylvania. By the way, it must be noted that she’s only able to be on the swim team at all BECAUSE she was very good at swimming while in high school. But after swimming her freshman and sophomore year with the Men’s Swim Team, she took an additional year to continue her transition and competed her senior year on the Women’s Swim Team. Having previously started Hormone Replacement Therapy, she lost muscle mass and decreased bone density, which affected her height. There were normal rigors that came with the dedicated loss of testosterone, including mental and physical fatigue, increased body fat, and memory issues. All the while, like any other elite NCAA athlete, she continued to work on her craft and get better.  So, by her senior year, Lia became a national champion in the 500-Yard Freestyle, for which she set a school record. She also set four other school records. And like clockwork, the national debate on Transgender Women competing in sports went into overdrive.

The basic assumption of detractors boil things down to an issue of fairness. This has since been highlighted by the Governor of California, Gavin Newsom, who said it was deeply unfair for men to compete against women. Well, shockingly, he’s absolutely right.  Of course, it’s an issue of fairness for men to compete against women. But that also has nothing to do with Transgender woman or what we’re talking about. You see the normal refrain from the uninformed is to not just assume Transgender women are simply men putting on wigs and a dress and go compete against women, but they assume that Transgender woman are doing this EXCLUSIVELY to win at sports. Not for their own peace of mind or to live as they are. Nevermind any efforts to transition or feelings of inadequacy for years or even decades prior. They believe the only reason Lia Thomas transitioned was to win at a college swim race.

It’s assumed that while competing against men, Lia Thomas was not an elite athlete and that she was ranked #462 prior to transitioning. The only problem with that is that #462 rank(which is likely made up), it’s was said to be for the 200-yard Freestyle, which she actually didn’t compete in when she was on the Men’s team. Even if they tested for that one race, swimmers compete in multiple races. The reality is that while she was on the Men’s team, she was she was All-conference in 500 Free, 1,000 Free and 1,650 Free placing 2nd in each of these. Lia Thomas was good in high school. Lia Thomas was good on her college men’s team. Lia Thomas was good on her college women’s team. And year after year, she had to get better. This is sports. An absolute meritocracy. If she was not good to begin with, she would not compete and could also be cut. In her case, having to go through hormone therapy and a loss of testosterone(which is tested for and has to be on par with ALL women in the NCAA), she still has to practice and get better. And she did. But instead of assuming she does exactly what every elite NCAA athlete does, people like Governor Newsom just assume she puts on a wig just to make a mockery of sports. So Governor Newsom and his conservative friends want us to believe that the Transgender swimmer Lia Thomas has physical advantages that afford her skills or abilities that other Cisgender swimmers do not have.

So let’s talk about another swimmer. 

Michael Phelps. Not just the most decorated swimmer in Olympic history, Michael Phelps is the most decorated athlete to have ever competed in the Olympics. He has won 28 medals overall, 23 of which are gold medals. This is ELEVEN more than the next highest male athlete’s total number of medals. He’s won the most medals at a single Olympiad and won the most gold medals in a single event. He was the most successful athlete at the Olympics for four consecutive Olympic Games. His body of work is likely to be unmatched. Michael Phelps is without question the most skilled swimmer that has ever lived. But it also has been acknowledged that Michael Phelps has different abilities that most normal humans do not possess. For starters, he’s very tall. Although height is a strategic advantage, he’s exceptionally taller. At 6’4, it’s a full two inches taller than the average male swimmer, eight inches taller than most human males. Which obviously allows for him to be closer to the finish if he and another competitor were tied. But on top of that, he has incredibly long arms with a wing spandex longer than his standing height. That means he can extend further than most humans. But his special abilities don’t stop there. His body produces half the amount of lactic acid that most humans do. If you ever played sports and felt your knees burn after a tough day, then you know how this can be an advantage. Michael Phelps’ lung capacity is reported to be 12 liters, which means he can hold twice the amount of air compared to normal humans. This also allows for far more oxygen to supply his muscles, which causes him to fatigue at a slower rate compared to normal humans.

If you can’t tell, I am talking about Michael Phelps as if he’s one of Marvel Comics X-Men. Because if anyone on Earth is such a mutant, it’s DEFINITELY Michael Phelps. But he’s not alone. Eero Mäntyranta, a Finnish skier, was one of the most successful Winter Olympics athletes in the 1960s, winning 7 medals across three Olympics. It was found he possed a genetic abnormality, primary familial and congenital polycythemia. It causes an increase in red blood cells due to a genetic mutation, which allows for a better transportation of oxygen, causing increased endurance. Eero Mäntyranta was quite literally a mutant. At least by the X-Men’s standard. Heavyweight boxing champion, Tyson Fury, he stands at 6’9 and has a reach of 85 inches. That’s nearly 15 inches higher than his namesake and Heavyweight boxing legend Mike Tyson. I’m not even going to mention basketball, a sport that practically depends on genetic physical advantages. But each of these athletes have physical advantages that most humans and most other athletes they compete against do not have.

So if someone looks at Lia Thomas and assume that since she once was a man(and despite a medical and physical transition) and assume she STILL has a physical advantage over her competition, it’s no more than any of the previous athletes’ physical advantages that I’ve mentioned. But the one thing each of these athletes have in common is losing. They all have tasted defeat despite their “advantages,” which means advantage alone is no guarantee. You still have to put in the work and get better to succeed. Because that’s how sports work. You don’t complain about someone being better. You just get better and win.

So, I want to end this soliquy on such a note. And point out the dude standing off to Lia’s right in the aforementioned picture. That is Iszac Henig. Born outside of San Francisco around the same time Lia was, Iszac became a fan of swimming, watching Michael Phelps dominate the 2008 Olympics. And with a lot of practice and training, much like his idol Michael Phelps, as well as his aquatic contemporary, Lia Thomas, Iszac got really, really good at swimming. He enrolled at Yale University, becoming an All-American as a part of their swim team. Check that, their Women’s Swim Team. In 2021, Iszac came out to his family and teammates as a Transgender Man. He started his social transition with his name, Iszac, and preferred pronouns, as well as the medical transition, with receiving a double mastectomy. However, what he chose not to do was the masculine hormone therapy, which prevented him from being on the Yale Men’s Swim Team to compete against other men. Which meant he had no choice but to compete against women. Well, later that school year, Yale had a match against their Ivy League rival, University of Pennsylvania and their Swim team, anchored by Lia Thomas, who at this point has become a mass media standout. Fortunately, the attention Lia got mattered little to Iszac, as he went on to soundly defeat Lia Thomas in the 100-Yard Freestyle. As a matter of fact, four other Cisgender females bested Lia in that very race. Iszac also had a better time than Lia in the 400-Yard relay as well. And just to be sure it wasn’t a one-off event or Lia letting Iszac win, two months later, the two would face each other again in the NCAA National Championship. Iszac finished 5th in the 100-Yard Freestyle while Lia finished 8th, besting her once again.

Earlier, I mentioned how Lia Thomas became the focus of the debate around Transgender Women competing in sports. I was very particular about my wording. This isn’t a discussion of Transgender Athletes. Because often in the case of politicizing the trans community, virtually no detractor ever considers the space of Transgender Men. This is why the news of Iszac Henig beating the brakes off Lia Thomas is barely a footnote in the firestorm that was her senior year at UPenn.

So what is the physical advantage that he had that gave him special abilities to swim better than Lia? I don’t think Gavin Newsom has had that conversation with his constituent.

Oh. By the way. The Asian guy on her left is Schuyler Bailar. Schuyler is a Transgender Man and he, like Lia and Iszac transition as a competitive swimmer in college. He finished his career with the third fastest time at Harvard in the 100-Yard Breaststroke, ranking him in the top 15% of all NCAA male swimmers. Which included University of Pennsylvania Freshman Lia, known at the time as Will Thomas.

And nobody cared.

Trans athletes have always competed in sports. But out of the 500,000 NCAA student athletes, only 10 are Trans. That’s not even 1%. It’s not even half of 1%. It’s far less than that. And where they do compete, automatically assuming unfairness or that they’re dominating physically disadvantaged competitors is an assumption that’s not back up back the real data. Both the NCAA and the International Olympic Committee test their competitors and have done it for decades. It’s what they do. This is not their first rodeo. This is literally the purpose of their existence. To secure fairness for all athletes. And they have done that. But yet, they let Michael Phelps continue to compete as if he’s just any other normal human swimmer. Like Lia Thomas.

Crime & Punishment: An American Tradition

It’s a funny story whenever someone wonders what I do for a living. It’s a valid question to ask. There are those who assume all I do is political work, given my proximity to campaigns and candidates for a lot of years. But that part of my life is done. Whenever I do tell people what I do or more specifically where I work, it’s more often than not met with a lot of confusion. You see, I work for Elevance Health. It’s one of the largest employers in the area. It also happens to be one of the largest health insurance companies in the nation, with a product that has universal name ID. But again, if I tell you I work for Elevance Health, you probably have no idea what that is. However, when I explain the company’s former name, Anthem, it clicks with familiarity. Yes, the reasons aren’t even clear to me, but I often have to explain it with comparisons to Facebook. How Facebook changed it’s name to “Meta” but the product is still Facebook, same thing with Anthem. It changed it’s name to Elevance Health, but we still carry the same Anthem Blue Cross Blue Shield plans most people know and have.

Oddly enough, the more I think about it, healthcare has basically become as much of a family business as political involvment. My father, a career Navy guy, retired and became a service office for Veterans Affairs. He made it his life’s work to make sure those who served this country receive the care and provision they were promised. My father has been gone for nearly 10 years and to this day, I still receive regards from those he assisted when they needed it. My brother, made it his life’s passion from the start of his career. He started out as an community organizer working to bring things like accessible healthcare to the truly disadvantage. That lead him to elected office where he could fight for affordable healthcare options for an entire state. Which lead to one of his greatest career achievements, as one of the more pivotal voices in the implementation of the Affordable Care Act or Obamacare, which changed the face of healthcare across the entire nation. However, my brother couldn’t stop there. When he left the Obama Administration, he got a job as the Chief Diversity Officer at a state hospital. Yes, my brother was a healthcare executive. I am damn proud of him. I am thankful for my father. And I absolutely value the work I do on a daily basis and the people I know I’ve helped.

I explain this as the country has been inudated by the news of the shooting death of the UnitedHealthcare CEO Brian Thompson in New York City. To say the reaction of someone being shot to death has been heart-felt or sypathetic would be seriously comical at this point. UnitedHealthcare is part of the larger UnitedHealth Group, the largest healthcare conglomerate in the nation and one of the largest companies in the world. It doesn’t simply provide(or deny) healthcare to millions of people. UnitedHealth, like Elevance and other healthcare conglomerates grew to their existing size by diversifying their growth to include any and everything that involves healthcare. Not just health insurance, but doctor offices, pharmacies, managed care providers, billing and even information and technology. What this practically means that someone can be insured by the same entity, have care provided by that entity, prescriptions given by the same entity and ultimately pay that very entity. To be honest, this is a by-product of a serious issue in the healthcare industry that failed consumers on a yearly basis of having constant issues between doctors vs pharmacies, pharmacies vs billing, billing vs doctors and doctor vs technology. Each struggle to betray the needs of those who paid for care, which was unfit to give them the help they pay for. So when these large corporate insurance businesses buy doctors offices, pharmacies, and billing, the idea is to have everything integrated to better help consumers. But it also has the added bonus of massively increasing profits to a rather ridiculous level.

Now hold on to yourselves, because there’s another side to the story, the “Dark Side”(of course I had to get in a Star Wars reference). The Dark Side of the health insurance industry isn’t just how much of a profit it has received, but precisely how it goes about making those profits. The integration of services that private insurance companies do wasn’t done out of a desire to help consumers. It was done expressly as a money-making enterprise. The actual by-product was an integrated process for consumers. You see, when initiatives like the Affordable Care Act, designed to help consumers, made healthcare more affordable, it prevented health insurance companies from being able to make money. So to subsudies their revenue, they had to find ways to make up the loss by hedging their profits, which they did. On top of this is the constant aggrivation of consumers nationwide signaled by the “Delay, Deny and Defend” mantra of insurance companies, going absolutely out their way to refuse to pay insurance claims of consumers who need care. What ostensibly is antihetical to the whole idea of “healthcare” is a lifeline to healthcare companies. If you ask for care, you will submit a claim. That claim goes to the insurer and the insurer pays, allowing for you to receive the care. However, if they refuse to pay the claim or stall payment, you do not receive that care. And while, you can continue to ask for the care and appeal their denial and if you persist, they will pay the claim, but the reality is the thousands of those who submit a claim will not appeal their denial, which means they do not receive the care they need. So if you you do not submit the claim, they do not pay the claim, they can save money by not paying the claim. So, by practice, an insurance company will deny a claim, not because they do not want to pay it, but there’s a financial motive to not pay. In short, it is good business for the healthcare industry to be in the business of not providing healthcare. Of course this motive could irrevocably alter your financial, emotional and physical well-being, but this is the result. Yes, it is VERY perverse and grossly immoral, but morality is not a metric of a capitalistic society.

The bigger question becomes about the CEO of UnitedHealthcare and whether his part in all of this either justifies shooting him to death or excuses the reaction expressed from it.

I know you’ve heard a lot about what happened. The jokes could almost write themselves. But that’s the issue. This assassination has caused many across social media and the news to highlight the complications of the insurance industry. And the culprit of their complications is found to be Unitedhealthcare’s CEO. Now, is Brian Thompson personally responsible for denying every single claim submitted? No. Frankly, claim denial is not even main driver for UnitedHealth Group’s profits. They own doctor offices. They make millions from the pharmaceuticals. The government pays them in their managed care programs. Denying claims, while it does make money, it cannot possibly grow business. On top of that, Brian Thompson was the CEO of UnitedHealthcare. That’s not even the parent company. It’s a subsidary of UnitedHealth Group. And of course, let’s state the obvious. Brian Thompson is but a single cog in an infernal machine. He just works there. Killing him doesn’t just mean insurance companies will not stop denying claims, but it also means that someone below him is about to be really stinking happy with the pay raise and benefits they are about to inherent. Congratulations. You just made some rich guy much richer. So then, what was accomplished by his killing? There was news that Elevance Health has annouced that it plans to drop anesthesia coverage cap it intially introduced last month, but knowing my employer as I know my employer, this was not a decision made in a matter of days. These are the type of decisions that are made in meetings about the meeting to have a meeting about meeting up to decide to have a meeting. And nobody brought any firearms to any of those Microsoft Teams calls.

What we are left with, without a shadow of any doubt, is a man was shot to death on a city street. I am repeating this for a reason. Because some of you need to hear it again. A man was shot to death by a firearm. This is a conversation that we are decidedly NOT having. And as a country, we’ve avoided having this conversation for so long that there are new conversations we need to have. The alledged gunman, Luigi Mangione was arrested with a 3D printed “ghost gun”, a gun made from scratch that has no serial number, no original owner and no real manufacturer. The problem becomes when we are able to start this conversation about gun violence, we are only able to do so because we can identify the problem. When someone buys a firearm, that firearm has a serial number that can be tracked and you can find who the buyer is and ultimately the person who is in possession of a firearm if used in a crime. This has helped with crime prevention. Take New York City for instance, the very streets where this crime was committed. The homicide rate for the city hovers just under 5 per 100,000. This is a far cry from what it was at over 30 years ago when crime was rampant. In 1990 nearly 2,300 people were killed in New York. Last year that number was less than 400. They were only able to do this by having a conversation about gun violence and doing something about it. However the Justice Department and ATF has only been able to trace less than one percent of ghost guns to their purchaser. This is an issue for a nation that has gone from just over 4 homicides per 100,000 ten years ago to nearly 7 per 100,000 now.

And then there are the salient political factors that beg to be addressed. Yes, the affordablity and accessibility of healthcare is critically important and demands political redress. What I’m not going to ignore is what gun violences does to this country on a daily basis and it does NOT matter who the victim is. Nevermind the fact that he had a family. Nevermind the fact that insurance companies have been predatory for years now. It doesn’t make it any better because he was a one percenter or because the healthcare industry is evil. He didn’t make it evil. And it definitely ain’t getting any better without him. We can have a conversation about healthcare accessibility. But it cannot trump the conversation we need to have about gun violence. Fact of the matter is more people are killed with a firearm than being denied healthcare from an insurance company. Not even to mention the thousands of people that stress a broken system even more when they are shot, thoroughly damaged and need help from a damanged system. You want to change the healthcare system fix the gun laws! There’s a good start right there.

I’ll end with something fun. Comic books. If you’re reading this, you probably know a little bit of a lot about me. You know I’m a bit of a geek and frankly I’m proud of it. Yeah, my geekery of choice is Star Wars, but I’ll dive into comic books as well. Two of my favorite characters are from each of the main publishers, the Punisher from Marvel Comics and the Question from DC Comics. Calling these guys “superheroes” or even “heroes” for that matter would be a stretch. They do not act like your traditional heroes. The Question fights crime but isn’t highly regarded by other in the comic book world. He’s a pretentious asshole that think he’s smarter than everyone(it’s a wonder why I like him). He walks to a beat of his own drum and applies his own morality to how he fights crime. Not very undifferent from my other favorite character, the Punisher. You know him. The guy with the white skull over his chest that shoots to death all of his villains. So of course all armed tough guys in real life admire this guy. What these people fail to realize is the Punisher, and a slight lesser extent the Question, are an extension of a writer’s interpretation of what they saw in society. These characters were created in the 1960s and 1970s, a time where American society was visibly falling apart. They are apparitions of a broken society. They are not to be worship or respected. They are a symptom. Vigilantism is not a good thing. It’s a rejection of the social contract that we agreed upon as a society. We depend on that contract because it is for the entire society with the involvement of the entire society. Not some dude with a beef. Because we’d look really silly if we started depending on the moral decision-making of country-club prep school kid with a man-crush on the Unabomber. That would probably be a little embarrassing.

If Brian Thompson had done wrong, then he should be exposed to the justice system we all are. If we find our legal wrong does not match our definition of a moral wrong, then we address this with legislative and political systems we have at our disposal. We don’t just decide a legal wrong justifies stopping a moral wrong. That’s no better than Scott Roeder who killed George Tiller. Or Timothy McVeigh. And yes, it’s no better than Osama Bin Laden. He also thought his moral righteousness outweighed my brother’s legal right to exist. There is nothing funny about this. There is no rationalizing what is irrational. There are moral absolutes in our society. This is mine.

And for you people that are actually taking glee and share flippant comments and memes about someone being shot to death on a city street… I’ll take the break from you that you should have taken from the internet. You’re better than this. We are better than this.

America: Who We Are & Where We Are Going

So, like many of you, I’ve been attempted to(and spectacularly failing at) process the events of the week. And I’ve watched many of you react to what happened on Tuesday and your reactions aren’t much different than the ones I’ve felt and experienced myself. But the reactions I’m seeing do not mirrior my reaction of this week. They do, however, emulate the reaction I had in 2016. Unfortunately, this week, my feelings on what happened are severely more muted compared to what I felt that year. And even then, that was a result of my personal failings than anything else. And yes, this might sound troubling or at least negligent to some, when I woke up Wednesday morning(from a fairly sound sleep), I checked my phone for approximately half a minute just to affirm what I already knew and then I went about my day. I did not unfriend anyone. I did not shout anyone down or browbeat them. Nothing I did in 2016, I did in 2024.

If you’re wondering how could I or why am I seemingly so nihilistic, I believe I can explain, in two stories. Which honestly, will also explain both who we are as a country… and where we are going.

The first story is one I’ve repeated recently to some in the last few weeks and months. And if you know me like you might, you have to know this story takes a deeply nerdy and bookish dive in history. Over 800 years ago to be exact. It was some 100 years after William the Conquer took over England. The monarchy was ruled by one of his successors, King Henry II. At the time, the English monarchy was still heavily linked to the Roman Catholic Church, which caused issue with those who ruled and how they ruled. It was an open debate about whose power superceded the other, the monarchy or the church. The king, who did not want his authority questioned clashed with the Archbishop of Canterbury, who had the authority of the church at his backing, which drove the king COMPLETELY up the wall. He hated it. He hated the Archbishop. He felt he was king and wanted to ACT like the king. So in a fit of rage he yelled out in his court to absolutely no one in particular “Will someone rid me of this turbulent priest?!” And that’s what happened. A few knights heard the king’s exclaimation, ran up to the Archbishop’s church and killed him. Historians have debated whether Henry II intended to have the Archbishop killed. He certainly wanted to be rid of the Archbhisop. But the knights that kiled the Archbishop, they did so attempting to follow the king’s demand as they saw it. Was it their fault that the king was so careless with his words?

However, history has told us of an affirmative. The knights that killed the Archbishop were run off and excommunicated from the church. Unfortunately, this was 12th Century England. Our present offers a different continunity.

Donald Trump is a vile person. We all see it. At the very least he is crass and deeply insolent. His supporters have called him a lighting rod and sees the virtue of him speaking without filter. This honestly, is exactly what detractors have faulted him for. Not simply for him having no filter, but more precisely, he doesn’t give thought to practically anything he says. He says things to play to a crowd, to get a reaction and has no regard to the implications of what he says. It’s the immediate reaction that concerns him. While this should be plenty alarming on it’s own, it’s also coupled with his instincts that seem to exclusively trend towards the most racially, culturally and socially insensitive. That’s putting it kindly and, to be fair, I kind of have to because he doesn’t possess the wherewithal or forethought to attribute the malice he’s often credited for. But make no mistake, it is indeed there. He will deny it. But those who follow him do not. They are his knights and we are the church that stands in the way from achieving what he truly wants. A different America.

Which begs the larger question that I don’t think I’ve had clarified by either those that voted for him or support him. And if you are one of these persons and are still reading this, first thank you. Seriously. But I have toask for you to give consideration to this question, if not, supply an actual answer.

If in your normal day-to-day walk of life, someone you knew, loved, befriended, cared for or otherwise acquainted with, if this person came to you and told you about an experience of racism or intolerance, bigotry or such afflicting behavior, do you ignore their experience? Are you able to discount it and move on? Or do you burden yourself with their troubles and empathize with their lived experience they shared with you? You might not share it, you might not understand it, but with it being the account of someone that you have a personal relationship with, does your concern extend to them? Especially when they are feeling particularly vulnerable? Do you compartmentalize the pain of this person when they are confronted with the wretchedness this world bears? Or can you stand with them when ignorance and depravity stands against them? Do you hear them? Do you see them? Do you accept what they are going through as real? Or do you ignore it?

I’ll give you an example.

Many of you know Marcus Calabrese. You might find him morally contemptable or perhaps even socially detestable. Sadly, he is much worse. Marcus Calabrese also abuses women, puts them in the hospital and thinks torturing someone physically weaker than him is actually funny. This is who he is. I’ve told this to people like former Delegate and friend Glenn Davis. However, my former friend decided to ignore this or accept such despicable behavior and continued to stand with Marcus Calabrese. So I no longer could stand with him. Because I strongly believe that’s what you do. When someone flagrantly violates basic human dignity you don’t stand with the violator!

But this is what I’m seeing happening in this country. However the failure I made wasn’t to acknowledge it now, but to see it, know it was there the entire time and to actually be hurt when I see it championed. It is very clear: This is who we are.

Now, here’s the second story. And if you know me as you might, this is a story that’s equally nerdy but instead of the realism of history, it’s of the fantasy that’s found in comic book fight’s most iconic fictional characters: Superman. And when you think of Superman’s-… well, Superman’s “enemies list”, on top of that list is the calculating and conniving Lex Luthor. However, the character that’s probably at the to of that list is the intergalactic alien Darkseid. He’s basically Supman’s Thanos. He’s as calculating as Lex Luthor but has superpowers greater than that of Superman, with his notable power bieng his “Omega Beam” that disintegrates whoever it hits, but because Superman is basically invulnerable, it just causes him intense pain at it’s lowest effect.

So as the story goes, Darkseid has deeply offended Superman and now Superman wants payback. He’s messed with him so bad that even the goody-two-shoes that’s Superman is out for blood and revenge. He goes to Darkseid’s lair, a planetary hellscape that’s actually called Apocalypse, where Darkseid rules a planet full of broken and beaten down slaves. Superman quickly dispatches all of Darkseid’s henchmen and confronts Darkseid inside his castle. Before the two get to blows, Darkseid tells him “I am many things Kal El but right now, I am your destroyer.” And the two of them absolutely rip into each other, hitting each other so hard that shockwaves from the impact thunders across the planet, causing all of the slaves to look in awe and horror. But the fight finally gets to the point where Darkseid is ready to finish off Superman and use his Omega Beam to its highest effect. But before he’s able, Superman turns the tables and covers up Darkseid’s eyes causing the beam to shoot back into his head popping it clear open like a ruptured volcano. Beaten and barely able to stand, let alone fight, Superman picks up Darkseid’s broken body and tossess it at the feelt of the slaves who have gathered. He announces “Darkseid is beaten. You’re free. Do to him what you will.” The slaves looked down at Darkseid, back up at Superman and back to Darkseid before going over to gently and carefully pick him up to carry him off for aid to help him. Superman, shocked at this not understand why these people wanted to help such a despotic tyrant, he’s interrupted when Darkseid stops the slaves and looks at Superman. He tells him, “I am many things Kal El, but here I am their lord and savior.”

For the life of me, I’ve never been able to understand the appeal of Donald Trump. I still can’t and frankly never will. The closest explanation I’ve received has very often little to do with policy. It’s almost exclusively personality driven. Which given the lack of character he displays, confuses me even more. But, like the Superman villain, his supporters don’t see a flawed character that is obvious and apparent to most of us. Darkseid is the same despot to Superman as he is to those he enslaved. But to them, he represents something that Superman, in his virtue, cannot see. They see in Darkseid what supporters see in Trump. They do not see the villain. What they do see is their America.

And this was crystalized to me when I woke up Wednesday morning. Again, that morning, I confirmed what I already knew. And that wasn’t the fact that Donald Trump won an election. But what it actually crystalized was realizing the America that I indeed lived in. The America I woke up to Wednesday morning was the same exact America I went to sleep to Tueday Night. The failure I neglected to acknowledge was that this was the same America we’ve been living in since well before November of 2016. You see, back then, I thought we were a different. I expected different. I thought we were no longer that America and I reacted like we were no longer that America. However, I now know what this country is and has always been. So I do regret that I am no longer shocked by it at all. The shocking part was that this election or any election against him is even close to begin with. In the America I thought we were in, it never would be.

But this is our America. And this is hard for many of us to square. But where we can very plainly and painfully see a wretched broken man, they don’t see that. What they see is the America that we have been and want to return to that country. We’re often told of two America, which usually dons the metric of rich and poor, the haves and the haves not. But the seperation that does make these two visions of America is one that is changed and one that has not. One America of that is who we are and another America of where we are going. And both sides don’t realize that they actually live in the other America. This is what they see and why it’s never something we can accept. They want an America that emulates a time where he was what this country was. They don’t want to make America great again. They want what “Make America Great Again” embodies. And he is their last best hope for a return. However, for those of us that do not live in that America anymore, those of us who are too often exposed to everything that he and that America he represents, we want a different America. We can’t see that America he represents because it is a America that we do not have a place in. And because of that, we have to move forward to a new America. A country that is about progress, not regress. A country that accepting of whatever identity we are born with and choose. That’s the America we’ve seen. And while it might have been a campaign slogan for the alternative, it is indeed a destination for our future.

We’re not going back.

What Do You See?

This is not a Rorschach Test.

But apparently people are seeing different things.

Keep that in mind for right now, but put it in a mental parking lot. I’ll come back to it. Because right now, I have a confession to make. Two of them in fact. One, I’m quite proud of and will glady pat myself on the back for. While the other is largely embarrassing and comically pathetic.

Confession #1: I fixed my car this weekend. For a while I’d hear a metal on metal grind whenever I would come to a slow stop. And it got progressively worse. If you know cars, you know my brakes were worn out. So I decided to do something about it. I called Meineke and asked for a quote, they said in the ballpark of about $350 but could be as high as five or eight hundred dollars plus, which caused me to roll my eyes and hang up the phone. My rent just went up. I got hospital bills to pay. That’s a high price tag. So I decided to do it myself. And back in like September, I went to the auto parts store and bought the brakes. Got home, didn’t have the tools. I work most of the day, so I couldn’t just get up and go get them. So a few days later, I go buy a ratcheting set with 10 sockets, figured I should be good. Still working, but finally found a day to have a solid block of time to take my front wheels off, remove the brake, put a new one on. But then I find, I don’t have the right socket, so then I have to go buy another, then the bolt on the brake was stuck and I had to break that. Finally I did! I removed the brake, put the new one on, put it back on and put my wheel back on and I haven’t felt this manly since the first time I talked back to my mom. All it took was like 8 weeks and nearly $200, but I did it!

Confession #2: I don’t want to speak for most men, but we are GROSSLY miseducated about how women body’s function. But in all fairness, that is TOTALLY not our fault. I blame the media. Why? TV Commercials. We’ve all grew up watching the same ones about femine products. Every Tampax or Playtex commerical will do the same thing. They will talk about discomfort and what women will go through and do the EXACT same product demostration. They’ll show the tampon and then they’ll spill that mysterious blue liquid on it to show it’s effectiveness and we’re supposed to be impressed. Okay cool. Your product works. Only problem is, it took me an embarrassing long time to connect the dots but WOMEN DON’T SECRETE BLUE LIQUIDS! It gets worse. The other day, I found myself at a women’s private facility(longer story, won’t get into it) but I noticed small colorful tube shaped packets in certain areas and it reminded me of a time, not a long, long time ago, where I first noticed these objects whenever I was at or near a women’s restroom or a doctor’s office frequented by women or such locations. I seriously thought to myself “why are they giving women free fruit rollups in the bathroom?” I got jealous, but that was what my mind associated with the small tube-like packaging. Of course I know they were tampons now. And while it’s ridiculous, I didn’t have a frame of reference other than it look like a fruit rollup we’d have for our daily lunch in elementary school.

I don’t have the data to back this, but I doubt I’m the only man to have these experiences. Particularly the second one. Frankly, it’s not something we’re required to know and being completely honest, for the most part, we would rather not even want to think about it. And as much as the women’s body is not something we are actively able to wrap our brains around, to be fair, the science involved is not remotely as perfected as we want it to be. Especially when we’re talking about childbirth and reproduction. Understand this: in the time it takes you to read this sentence, across the world, a preganant woman or her newborn baby has died during the process of child birth. That is just mortality. Complications during pregnancies are largely common, far more common than we typically attribute. This is why we have an entire medical study and prefession of Obstetrics and gynecology dedicated to it. This is precisely why we call it Reproductive Health. Because it is all about their health.

Yet, there are those who have weighed in on this science to make the decisions that, men like me, are making, without fully appreciating the complexities of women’s health. For weeks, many of us have watched an exhausting number of political ads with candidates telling us not just their position on abortion, but their opponents position. Roe vs Wade, which made abortion legal across the nation, has been overturned and multiple states have already banned the practice, with more pressing significant changes to ability to have access to it. Despite multiple candidates candidly stating their complete opposition to it, Governor Glenn Youngkin has stated his intention of signing into law a post 15-week ban on abortion.

The Governor has stated on multiple occasions that 15 weeks is a “reasonable compromise” with those that are pro-life and those that are pro-choice. The only problem is, there was already a reasonable compromise. That was Roe vs Wade. It allowed for women to have a restricted access to their reproductive health. But Republicans are trying to move the goal post on what is considered reasonable based upon a 15-week timeline, which the Governor has said, is when a fetus is able to feel pain. And the only problem with that is the science doesn’t back this position. The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologist, the very profession of people who life’s work is to know the women’s body reproductive ability, has stated that a fetus cannot feel pain until the third trimester, which was where the compromise was when Roe vs Wade was decided. What the Governor is responding to is a fetus’ response to stimuli, which is one of a multitude of abitrary processes that occur during fetal development.

But the reality is, with these Republican candidates, they are the ones compromising with 15 weeks with the absolutism of a complete ban. The compromise is with them, not with the rest of us. This is partly due to the fact that most abortions occur well before 15 weeks. In fact, in 2020, only 2% of all abortions in Virginia occured after 15 weeks, some 800 cases. And I can almost gaurantee that of those 800 cases, about 800 of them didn’t just wake up after being pregnant for 15 weeks and decide to get an abortion. It doesn’t work like that. If a woman is seeking to have an abortion, there are likely reasons why she either could not or did not want to or need to have one earlier. And part of that is, as stated, women’s reproductive health is ever evolving, constantly changing risk throughout their pregnancy. And since the science is imperfect, most life altering complications cannot be discovered until well into the second trimester, far after 15 weeks. Preventing a woman from having access to her reproductive health after 15 weeks, espeically in a case where it very likely means the difference between the life and death the right claims to value, it’s a tragically consequential decision they have to make for themselves and their baby that is being made for them in the WORST way.

It’s only made worse because 15 weeks is their compromise. They’ve already passed a 6-week ban in multiple states and attempting to pass it in others. Which, again, might sound reasonable to many people. If a woman finds out she’s pregnant and then can spend the next 42 days deciding whether she wants to have an abortion of not, might sound fair. Unfortunately, reproductive health doesn’t work like that either. The gestation cycle that determines that, isn’t at conception, where many assume. Frankly, conception is rather impossible to determine since it can take up to five days for that to happen. And since a women’s reproductive cycle is never a determined time itself, the gestation period starts at the last day of the last menstration cycle. This is why most women cannot know they are even pregnant until 5 to 7 weeks in gestation. If you’re banning abortion after 6 weeks then that can mean only a matter of days to decide whether to put your life, your health and your family at risk for a decision you should have full control over.

Now, let’s unpark my first confession about my car. I’ve known my brakes were worn down since early September. I could have spent $300 to $500 to get it fixed then, but I didn’t. I had additional pressing priorities to handle. And the bigger difference between my car and a pregnant woman is, I didn’t have to drive 400, 500 or even 600 or more miles away just to pay $500 to fix my brakes. It is not an easy decision to be able to have such an expense available in your monthly budget. If it takes the time for a woman to be able to make such a decision as it did for me to fix my brakes, that’s already well pass a ban of 6 weeks. If you factor in the length of time it could take for a woman to even know that she has a pregnancy she might need abortion services for, that could extend beyond 15 weeks that Governor Youngkin feels is a resonable restriction for you to make such a decision.

Ultimately, feelings we have surrounding abortion are rather black and white. You either support a women’s choice to have freedom of her own reproductive health and ability or you don’t. You are pro-life or you are pro choice. These are absolutes. This is not a multiple choice test. You are not deciding between 15 weeks, 6 weeks or even zero weeks. Because honestly, this is not a test for your or anyone else to take.

This is not your life.
This is not your body.
This is not your decision.

So if you look at the image above and see something that needs to be controlled, regulated, or otherwise limited… look some place else. Because you are failing misreably.

The Cinempire Strikes Back!

The TL:DR… I’m about to talk about Star Wars and the SAG-AFTRA strike. 😉

On July 13, 1923, the 50-foot high, flash-bulb popping “HOLLYWOODLAND” sign was dedicated in the Hollywood Hills of Los Angles County. Originally, a bit of a vanity project by a couple of street car tycoons and real estate barons to build an exclusive hillside community with not just upper-class homes and stately mansions, but tennis courts, markets, salons and stables for resident’s horses. The massive sign was erected to be the most visible billboard to attract newcomers to one of America’s fastest growing cities, which quickly became a hallmark for one of America’s fastest growing industries.

Hollywood.

Where “Happily ever after” is a destination.

100 years later, on July 13, 2023, the Screen Actors Guild & American Federation of Television & Radio Artist joined the Writers Guild of America and ceased production and promotion of all projects covered with the Alliance of Motion Picture & Television Producers. What this means is that almost every movie and most television shows, shows with performers who are members of the SAG-AFTRA union, are no longer being produced. Big budget blockbusters like Gladiator 2, Deadpool 3, and the sequel to the newest Mission Impossible movie have all ceased production. Television shows like Chicago Fire, Law & Order: SVU, NCIS, and The Simpsons, which would typically be in production for their fall seasons right now, as well as popular streaming shows like Andor and Stranger Things, have all shutdown. So clearly, if you’re a fan of television and movies, you might be slightly disappointed for a little while. Yeah, studios still have completed projects scheduled to be released, but there will be a noticiable delay on whatever your viewing pleasure might be.

So right now, you might be asking yourself…. what does any of this have to do with Star Wars?

I’m glad you asked!

Back in 2016, Lucasfilm Limited and Walt Disney Studios released “Rogue One: A Star Wars Story” in theaters. If you’re not a fan, very briefly, Rogue One is a Star Wars movie, which acts as a spiritual pequel to the 1977 blockbuster Star Wars. As a prequel, this 2016 film used many of the same storylines, set designs and characters that were used in the original 1977 Star Wars. While storylines are timeless and sets can be recreated, characters that are played by actors and actresses in 1977 have age or otherwise not available to reprise their roles nearly 40 years later. And where some characters were recast with younger(and well, living) actors, the producer of Rogue One decided to use the budding technology of creating the digital likeness of certain characters. Peter Cushing, who played the villain in the original Star Wars, passed away in 1994. However, when you look at Rogue One, he was very prominently seen in the movie played by an actor whose face was not his own. Just the same with Carrie Fisher, who played Princess Leia in the 1977 movie. At the very end of the 2016 Rogue One, she shows up, not as the 60-year-old woman she was, but as the 20-year-old young woman she was in 1977. The thing is, while abbreviated and digitally articulated, Princess Leia, or at least Carrie Fisher’s face, was in Rogue One, but there’s one detail that was not in Rogue One. And that was Carrie Fisher herself. She was not credited in the film, which also means Carrie Fisher received a total of $0.00 from a film that grossed over one billion dollars in the box office. And this is part of the problem.

The other part of the problem deals with Princess Leia’s on-screen twin brother(here’s your 40-year-old Spoiler Alert), Luke Skywalker. Luke Skywalker was played by Mark Hamill. In 1977, Mark Hamill was 26 years old when audiences first saw him as Luke Skywalker. However, audiences last saw him as Luke Skywalker in 2020 and 2022, when he reprised the role in the streaming series “The Mandalorian” and “The Book of Boba Fett”. Those two shows took place a few years after the character was seen in the original films, which meant, like the actor, the character was to also be in his twenties. So, they also digitally recreated his likeness for these shows as well. However, the producer of these shows actually had Mark Hamill perform the scenes in the show, which means he is a credited performer and was paid for his work.

So what does this have to do with a bunch of overpaid actors going on strike?

I’m getting there! I promise!

A long time ago, in a studio far, far away from me, actually around the same time the Hollywood sign was originally erected, the executives of Hollywood studios held an enormous amount of power in the industry. Not very much different than now, but then, performers worked for the studio executives. They were for all intent and purposes, employers of those studios and as an employer they pretty much treated their employees, or actors, the way most employers would treat employees if left to their own devices, and that was pretty detestable. So, a group of actors including Boris Karloff(the guy who played Frankenstein) and Frank Morgan(the Wizard from the Wizard of Oz) along with several other actors and actresses created the Screen Actors Guild, a labor union to protect their rights as workers with studio executives and producers. And they all lived happily ever after…

For about 25 years.

Because at that time, a new invention started to gain traction in American households: Television. Now, Americans didn’t have to go out to theaters and pay to watch actors on screen. They could watch them on television in the comfort of their homes. Studios could sell their products to television networks to allow them to broadcast their films for content. And every time they did it, the studio would get paid a residual stipend with every showing. Do you know who got paid $0.00 for their work on those projects? Writers and actors.

So in 1960 they went on strike. And while it took several weeks for the actors(several months for the writers), eventually, the studio executives came to the conclusion that they were kind of being a bunch of tightwads and relented. They decided to give actors and writers a part of the residuals for work that is broadcast on television. And they lived happily ever after….

For like 20 years.

Because in the early 1980s, another new technology was entering homes across America: VCRs. Yeah, quite antiquated now, the industry was just getting off the ground in 1980. Much like television, studios could package their filmed projects and mass produce them on video tape and sell those video tapes to consumers who could watch their movies in the comfort of their own homes on their televisions. And of course, they received a residual payment for every single video they could sell to consumers. And do you know who got paid $0.00 for the work they did in those projects? Writers and actors.

So, in 1980 they went on strike again(the actors, writer’s struck in 1985 for the same reason). And in case you’re not keeping track, this has become a very visible and alarming pattern. Every time there’s a change in technology or a way entertainment is filmed or broadcast for consumers, film studios and mass media conglomerates of today are there to reap extremely massive rewards for what we give them. We want the content, and they are more than willing to find every way possible to give us this content. First it was by film. Then it was television. After that, it became home media. Now, the latest way to feed us our electronic opium is with the streaming of content and services. This has changed the game dramatically. For decades, since the first WGA and SAG strike of 1960, the formula for writers and actors to receive compensation on television was by episode. An episode is made, and they get paid. And, as structured, a television series would create and air a series for an order of 22 to 24 episodes a season. Of course, if a show runs weekly, that’s roughly six to eight months of compensation. Most people, like you and me, have to work 12 months to live normal lives. So what makes up for the other six months that they are not working are the negotiated residual paychecks that they receive when their work is broadcast on television. For example, I am a huge Law & Order: SVU fan and have probably watched every episode of the series. It stars Mariska Hargitay, who is paid per episode that is made. However, what has allowed me to watch every episode isn’t by watching it on NBC when it airs. But I’ve been able to catch up and watch on the USA network, ION and also MyTVZ. And every time Law & Order: SVU airs on those networks, Mariska Hargitay gets paid a residual income for work she did during filming of the show. Those additional airings supplements her income. And while Mariska Hargitay is very good and very prominent on the show, the reality is that the vast majority of actors on these series are not. The writers definitely aren’t either. So their compensation isn’t as high as many assume. They have to work for a living, which birth the term “working actor”. These are performers that find jobs and are looking for regular employment throughout the year. That is why network shows like Law & Order, Chicago Fire, NCIS, or The Simpsons, shows with long runs, are a reliable source of income for an actor. However, with the industry’s turn to an increase production on streaming content, this has changed. In fact, it has changed so dramatically that the actual workers in the industry have not remotely been able to keep pace.

The difference between network shows and streaming shows is the length. Whereas most broadcast shows are typically over 20 episodes, most streaming shows are less than half that amount. Broadcast shows were made to be vehicles for advertisment. Streaming services have no need to cater to advertisers to that extent, so they do not need to have seasons to span 6 to 8 months. They can be structured for shorter seasons, which could require 2 to 3 months of work. On top of that, the the studio can sell a show to a stream service and instead of the show being sold to and rerun on multiple network for continued income for the work that was actually done, writers and actors only receive a single residual from the streaming service. So not only are they working less, they are also receiving less income. So when Mark Hamill performed in The Mandalorian, he was paid for his work. But when I watch Luke Skywalker rip through a spaceship full of troopers 20 to 30 times a year, Mark Hamill isn’t paid 20 to 30 different times. He gets paid once.

On July 13, the same day the SAG-AFTRA strike was announced, the CEO of the Walt Disney Company, Bob Iger, did an interview with CNBC on the future of Disney as well as it’s relationship with consumers and labor disruptions. He said it was “disturbing” to him to see the writers and actors to go on strike and said that they are not being realistic in their expectations. This is keeping in mind that he is the CEO of the company that owns the film studio that hired Mark Hamill for his singular residual. I pay $10.99 a month for a Disney Plus subscripton, which allows me to watch Mark Hamill’s character destroy a hallway full of robots as often as I want. Bob Iger ostensibly receives residual income from my monthly subscription as I watch Mark Hamill’s character destroy a hallway full of robots every month. Mark Hamill received none of that. He does not receive income for his work that I consume and enjoy, nor would he receive income for the work he did that is digitally copied and used. If I write a book and that book is sold, I will receive income every time that book is sold. And I don’t need to personally write every copy I sell to receive that income. So why is it not realistic for someone to expect to be compensated for their work in the same way?

In Star Wars and Rogue One, the characters were fighting against the planet destroying monstrosity called the Death Star. There’s a line(written by a WGA writer and performed by a SAG actor) that asked what chance they have, and the character responded by asking what choice do they have. Bob Iger and other studio executives made the decision to change their business model to focus on streaming projects. This has made it harder for writers and actors to work and to live normal lives. Is there a chance that this strike affects the industry as a whole? Yes. But one side is living very comfortably, and the other side has members living check to check. Unfortunately, they really have no other choice… they deserve the chance to live happily ever after like the rest of us.

Disorder in the Court

Exactly 200 years ago, in 1823, Alexander Twilight graduated from Middlebury College in Vermont. Alexander’s father, Icabod was of mixe raced, as well as his mother Mary. Those facts would be of very little consequence for the next three years until Edward Jones, the son of a emancipated slave from South Carolina graduated from Amherst College in 1826. Amherst College decided to make note that Jones was the first African-American to graduate from an American college. However, when Middlebury College found out about this, they looked at Alexander Twilight, saw that despite him being, at best, a quarter black, he was still sufficiently African-American to be deemed the first actual African-American to have graduated college in United States history.

That was 200 years ago. For 150 years after Alexander Twilight’s mariculation, there were thousands of other African-American graduates of higher education to include the likes of Edward Mitchell, David Peck, Sam Ford McGill, Macon Allen, Ida B. Wells, Carter G. Woodson, Edward Bouchet, Booker T. Washington, W.E.B. DuBois, Patrick Healey, George Carver, James Weldon Johnson, and Thoroughgood Marshall. Among these are the first African-Americans to graduate medical school, or to pass the bar, Ivy League Graduates and even University Presidents. Also among these names is Kellis Earl Parker.

Born in Kinston, North Carolina, Kellis Parker was a lawyer, activist, and scholar. The son of a small business man, Kellis, like many Black kids growing up in the 50’s and 60’s, developed an early interest in music, with him and his brothers starting their own jazz band. It was this very passion that brought him to the path of activism when, as a teenager, he challenged a city ordinance that kept musical groups segregated in the town’s festivals. After high school, Kellis continued his activist streak, becoming one of the first five enrollees at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill in 1960. At North Carolina, he was involved in the student chapter of the NAACP, boycotted business in Durham that refused to intergrate, became a delegate to the United Nations International Students Conference and was elected to represent UNC at the National Student Congress in 1963.

Kellis Parker would complete his undergraduate studies at North Carolina in 1964 and continue his studies at Howard University Law School. At that time in America, there were just over 200,000 black students enrolled in the U.S. colleges and unversities. In ten years, that number had increased to over a million. From 1960 to 1975, the rate of Black enrollment in higher education increased at a rate of more than three and a half times that of total enrollment growth.

So what happened?

Did we all of sudden just get smart in 1960s? Did black people collectively have a eureka moment after the “I Have A Dream” speech? For 200 years we had a piecemeal yet relatively paltry number higher education graduates, but in the last 50 years it has been more than the prior 150 combined because, according to the United States Supreme Court, we just up and decided “maybe we should start going to college.”

The only way this is possible is because it was MADE possible.

In 1961, President John F. Kennedy signed Executive Order 10925. The order instructed federal contractors to take affirmative action to ensure applicants are treated fairly without regard to race, creed, color, or national origin. This is the beginning of Affirmative Action in America. Alone, judicial and legislative acts were not sufficient to reach the promise of equality we granted in the Declaration of Independence. Yes, Brown vs. the Board of Education desegregated schools, but it was only when these schools took action and made a plan to recruit promote their willingness to accept candidates of color did it make a difference.

It was the only way. The reality is Black men and women, like ALL men and women, have always been fully capable of everything our white counterparts are, but for our entire history, those capabilities have been staunchly denied. But we persisted, and Affirmative Action programs were there to make sure of it. We simply would not have intergrated and achieved if the opportunity was not there. And the opportunity was ONLY given when Affirmative Action plans were developed and implemented. And, as designed, they worked! The poverty rate for Black families was nearly 35% in 1967. In 2000, it dropped to under 20%. The median income for black families went from $11,000 in 1955 to nearly $24,000 in 1975, which was a higher increase than the rate of all families. Outside of numeric and economic improvements, Affirmative Action’s main goal was to intergrate and diversify a racially homogeneous America and it was doing exactly that. Putting Black and Brown faces where we have historically been denied and the consequence of that has force those who never knew or accepted our agency and ability to see we are fully capable of the exact same achievements as they are. That is the only way to show equality, through action.

But we have seen this story before. The same forces that fought against equality and diversity have been fighting that fight and winning it for years. And those fights have born fruit. Several schools have previously banned Affirmative Action programs over the last 30 years and the results are clear. Studies have shown the number of Black and Brown students enrolled at flagship state universities did not match the share of high school graduates in those same demographics and it did nothing but widen the gap over time. Ironically, a Harvard study found that states that have either banned or overturned Affirmative Action laws have shown a significant decrease in Asian female, Black female, and Latino male representation compared to states that had no such prohibitions. In short, Affirmative Action worked, as designed and without it, it the ill-effects of systemic racism and bias WILL increase. This is not even debatable.

Kellis Parker might have been one of the first Black men to attend the University of North Carolina. The irony that it is his very univerity that is at the center of the United States Supreme Court’s decision to overturn the very action that allowed for him and millions more to achieve what we has historically been denied is not lost. This is a bad decision by a historically bad Court. This is just the latest decision in a bank of decisions that have crippled a nation that does not match their judicial ideology. We are NOT the minority here. They are. But we have been here before. Only difference is that now we have clearly shown what we are capable of when given the opportunity. Affirmative Action is and was that opportunity. Let’s just hope it doesn’t take another 200 years to get back.

Happy Thanksgiving. Now Lets Abolish the 2nd Amendment!

There are three things that are all but certain to happen in every household on every Thanksgiving in America. The Cowboys giving someone heartburn, someone being in the kitchen who shouldn’t be there and last minute runs to pick up something that was somehow was forgotten for dinner. However, apparently that last item is no longer the simple dash and grab it use to be. Because now we have to go to the store knowing that at any minute some maniac can take a deadly weapon and brutally murder a mass of people at the whim of very pervasive firearm laws. Shopping centers have joined neighborhood streets, homes, churches, schools and nightclubs as the the new battleground in a war innocent lives never consented to. Whether it’s a tormented soul exacting perceived vengeance at his job, an abuser bringing a vicious end to the lives of those he was promised to love, or having the audacity to even go to school, nearly 50,000 lives have been taken by a gun in America. Thousands more irrevocably damaged live on as survivors. The over accessibility and abundance of firearms has secured this nation a pitiful distinction that no other developed nation has. And the only reason why we have been brought to this destination is due to the 2nd Amendment of the United States Constitution.

The 2nd Amendment to the United States Constitution was nearly 250 years ago and it was written with a VERY specific reason in mind. James Madison, Thomas Jefferson, and Alexander Hamilton made these reasons abundantly clear. We had just terminated the rule of King George, a tyrant empowered by a standing army. He used a well-trained and well-armed force against his own people with extreme prejudice and without the consent of those it was there to protect. And with the British rule extinguished, those men devised two constructs to prevent that from ever happening to the new Republic being established. The first way was to have a democratic rule and to give the means to the people to change that rule. The second way was to remove the power to oppress a nation from that rule. The 2nd Amendment was written, to remove the power from a standing army and to give it to the people, the same people that were already given democratic rule.

So it was written, “A well regulated Militia, being necessary to the security of a free State, the right of the people to keep and bear Arms, shall not be infringed.” During the Revolutionary War, the colonial militia was the citizen force that were called when needed. They were untrained, undisciplined and notoriously unreliable, especially when matched against the well trained and disciplined British Army. This is precisely why they wanted our militia to be a well regulated militia. Because it was necessary for the security of a free State. Even the wording here was not imprecise. State was capitalized because it referenced the entity as one “State” of the “United States”. Madison’s intent with the Amendment was to give each State the ability to protect itself. Again, they wrote a constitution to protect the State. And included the 1st Amendment to address and challenge the State. We DID NOT need arms to do that. They knew full well that just having arms was absolutely inefficient. To be clear, if you THINK the 2nd Amendment was written to protect the country, you can NOT look at what has been happening and think it is doing that at all.

Gun violence is a virus we’ve refused inoculation from. The reasons for this are pathetically misallocated as a threat against liberty. We do not safeguard our society because of the perception that our democracy will lose its ultimate safeguard. However, the trick is that actual safeguard IS the democracy itself. The only thing it leaves in its wake is death and thousands of shattered lives. But it is a protected right. And so, since it is a protected right, advocates will use all legal means to make sure that right is maintained, no matter the consequence. And it is that very protection that has allowed for an unfettered access and use of firearms in our nation’s streets, homes and schools. As long as it is protected, it can be used. And more importantly, as long as it’s protected, it will be abused.

So, I think it’s past time that we no longer protect it.

The 2nd Amendment needs to be fully abolished and it has to be done to protect its citizens. Because it is CERTAINLY not doing that with the way it is currently constructed now. And while it may sound radical that I am advocating the repeal of the Amendment, I am not. There are plenty of nations that still have firearms on the market for civilian use and ownership. If we prefer the right to continue to murder citizens, we can still do that. But we would then be better equipped to stop those that wish to do so than we are now. We cannot continue to use the excuse of “Constitutional Rights” to protect the abused right to murder. The true radicals are the people who can just sit by, watch the news every day, watch every massacre and every memorial and think this is normal.

We have to abolish the 2nd Amendment and it has to be abolished now!

Just Another Case of That Old PTA

Pleasantville. A movie I just absolutely adore. It was released back in 1998 and, slowly but surely, creeped upon my cinematic pallet. There’s not a lot of action or suspense. It’s not the typical adventure/sci-fi I go after, but more of a family-friendly type with several pointed allegories to our culture and society. It’s about these kids that get stuck in a black and white television show where everything is the idealized 1950s version of “pleasant”. And over the course of the movie, the more the characters begin to act or think in ways that weren’t exactly pleasant, like goofy or sad, angry or even lustful and excited, something in their world would change color. First it would start with small things like flowers or garments that would change from black and white to it’s natural hue. As the movie progressed it would come to include whole places and even people who would be, for an intention term, colored. As I write this, I’m reminded of the scene where the pleasant Black and White people made a set of rules for the town of Pleasantville to follow, particularly for the colored citizens. Rules on places they could go, colors they could use in art, music they could play and even what they’re able to teach and learn in school. The allegory from here mirrors the restrictions upon Black Americans during Jim Crow and of course those put upon European Jews in Nazi Germany.

And this is where we find ourselves today.

I’m sure many of you have read the recent news story coming out of Texas of the school district that is said to have told their teachers that they must teach the “opposing view” of subjects like the Holocaust. It’s jarring to even think about it. But the story has gotten out across the country that Texas wants its teachers to teach the virtues of anti-Semitism, bigotry and White Supremacy. And rational thinking people everywhere immediately were up in arms over something so ludicrous to think that someone wants to teach school children how Nazism was good.

Well, fortunately, the truth of the matter is a lot less salacious, but much more revealing of a larger issue that was bound to come to a head. The school official at the center of the story, Gina Peddy, was caught on a recording during a meeting with teachers about books and other materials in the school library. During the meeting, the subject of recent legislation signed into law came up in conjunction with an inquiry about the Holocaust. Peddy, who fully recognized how terrified teachers are to even teach under these conditions, was recorded reminding the teachers to be mindful of the new laws in the state and that if they have a book on the Holocaust that they, by law, had to have opposing or other perspectives. Of course, the immediate reaction of the room was the one everyone else in America had when they heard the story. Peddy was asked how could they give an oppose view of the Holocaust, as in who in their right mind wouldn’t oppose a systematic mass murder of millions of people.

And this was exactly what Peddy was highlighting. To her credit, she immediately acknowledged the impossibility of the demands she explained. It’s not something the news talks about, but as a reminder, the discussion was less about the Holocaust itself but more about the law, specifically Texas’ House Bill 3979 and the situation it has put educators in. House Bill 3979 is a new law in Texas that says, among other things, “teachers who choose to discuss current events or widely debated and currently controversial issues of public policy or social affairs shall, to the best of their ability, strive to explore such issues from diverse and contending perspectives without giving deference to any one perspective”. It was passed over the summer during the heated debates surrounding Critical Race Theory and it’s application in Public School curriculum. Of course, Critical Race Theory is a graduate level study that has nothing to do with what elementary, middle and high school kids learn but it became the placeholder for a larger debate and rage reaction by conservatives who were alarmed by the idea of teachers teaching factual lessons on American history. Unfortunately, American history is not filled with all sunshine and rainbows. It’s full of people who are prone to doing fallible people things. Like enslaving an entire race of people strictly because of their race. Or massacring native inhabitants of their land and taking their homes. The stuff people do if they think their race is inherently better than others. And so, Republicans everywhere, particularly in Texas were so bothered by people learning about their country and their race committing horrific atrocities, they created and passed a law made to punish anyone who would, as the law says, discuss controversial issues of public policy and social affairs. And who exactly determines what “controversial issues” under this new law are? Not the state. Definitely not the teachers. But, as it’s typically been, it’s the parents.

The law was passed in the middle of June of this year. And barely two months later, teachers across the state were expected to capably comply and interpret the law. They were expected to know what they could or could not teach, what they could and could not talk about and what they were now, by law, having to introduce and know all they were expected to have in classrooms and libraries by the start of the school year. And if they did not, if anything they taught or made accessible to students was deemed controversial by a student’s parent, they could be reported to the school board and face disciplinary action. Inevitably, of course, teachers immediately faced criticism. Last month, a 4th Grade teacher in that very district was reprimanded for having an anti-racism book in her class that a parent complained about. She could now lose her job. For teaching AGAINST racism. Teachers have a metaphorical gun to their heads, with their very jobs now on the line set at the whims of parents and legislators who made a law to keep American life Pleasant. Unfortunately, that is not real life. That is not real America or the real world.

Back in Pleasantville, when the kid was reading the list of do’s and don’ts that Black and White Pleasant citizens placed upon their Colored citizens, the last ordinance he read actually said “all elementary and high school curriculums shall teach the “non-changist” view of history- emphasizing continuity over alteration.” They did not want their society to change and codified that by law. Texas’ House Bill 3979 tried to do the same thing but is horribly written even by the ficticous facist rules of a 1950s era TV show. At least they came out and said what teachers are allowed to teach. In Texas’ classrooms, parents can now deem actual historical facts as “controversial issues” and place demands upon willing school boards to target educators. And while something like the Holocaust should be throughly taught and opposed, doing so could mean teachers having to explain the White Supremacy that drives it and that of course can be objected to by parents who feels even that unfairly targets white people. As ugly as it seems, Peddy’s demand to teach Nazism, as we assumed, it’s actually more of a warning, pointing out the hypocrisy of the law and trying to protect her teachers who are teaching in a brand new world.

You know it’s hard to not think about the Virginia Gubernatorial election this year and Glenn Youngkin’s attack of Terry McAuliffe. Youngkin has found fault with McAuliffe saying that he does not want parents telling teachers what they should or should not teach. Well this is why. Even local school boards and parents have found fault with certain books and materials in classrooms. Left to Glenn Youngkin and the parents who support him, some kids would receive no instruction on Jim Crow or White Supremacy. They would receive no instruction on police accountability and the value of Black lives. Learning about their racial, sexual and gender identity would also be taboo. And yes, even Nazism and the Holocaust is debatable by this standard. Welcome to the new Real World folks. Texas might be the first houseguest, but if we’re not careful we’ll be voted in that crazy house too.

Veepstakes: What’s At Stake

Former Vice President and presumptive Democratic Nominee for President Joe Biden is currently in the final stages of a process he’s been through himself. Within a few days, he will be selecting his running mate and Vice Presidential nominee. And the speculation of who he will select has centered on a half dozen women to fill the role. Senators Kamala Harris, Elizabeth Warren and Tammy Duckworth, Congresswomen Val Demings and Karen Bass and former National Security Advisor Susan Rice. Each of these candidates have qualities that can enhance Biden’s nomination and make their selection a consequential choice. Each of them also have challenges that could been seen as impediments for the former Vice President and make his election a tougher proposition.

But to know, which candidate embodies the qualities that would either enhance or hinder Biden’s nomination, you have to look at the qualities that go into the selection and historically, what qualities Presidential nominees have sought in making their choices. Our current Vice President, Mike Pence, like most, was chose for several reasons, among them is his experience as a legislator and executive. However, where President Obama relied on such experience from Joe Biden as counsel, under the current administration, Vice President Pence’s role is more of a throwback to Vice Presidents in our history. For you Hamilton fans out there, you might know the first time such a selection was made, back in 1800, with our fourth election for President. Then Vice President Thomas Jefferson, who was running against his President, John Adams had Aaron Burr as his running mate. Burr, who had begun building quite the political machine in New York, was very popular(which of course did not last much longer) in a part of the country that Jefferson, a Southern from Virginia, was not. And that was the precipice behind the selection of Aaron Burr. Of course, Burr proceeded to murder a Founding Father, get arrested for treason, divorced by a wife 20 years younger than him for robbing her blind, who was represented by the son of the Founding Father he murdered that was finalized on the day of his death in an obscure boardinghouse on Staten Island, largely forgotten until a Got Milk commercial and Lin-Manuel Miranda reminded everyone of who he was(it’s called Hamilton after all and not Burr).

Anyway. I digress.

More contemporary, the reason of giving your candidacy a geographical balance has also been a quality Presidential nominees have sought after. Particular when it means those electoral votes can be on the line. Hillary Clinton selected Tim Kaine, due in part to this reason. With him, like Jefferson being from Virginia(and both Clinton and Burr were from New York… interesting). That sort of balance also helped Governor Jimmy Carter select Minnesota Senator Walter Mondale as his running mate as well as the two “Boston-Austin” candidacies of Michael Dukakis and Lloyd Bentson and John Kennedy and Lyndon Johnson.

Another factor that went into Johnson’s nomination was his rather aggressive campaign for the presidency himself in 1960. The Democratic Party thought that uniting the different facets of the party under one ticket would not only send a message of unity, but assure voters that their concerns will be taken into account and excite the base. It was after tough primaries that other candidates also found running mates. reagan selected his running mate, George Bush under such conditions. Although with much less acrimony, John Kerry selected his running mate, John Edwards when he gave a strong showing in the 2004 Democratic Primaries.

However, there were other factors that caused Kerry to pick Edwards as well. Where John Edwards had strengths in foreign policy, legislative and military experience, many questioned his charisma and connection to the base of the Democratic Party, which Edwards successfully campaigned on as Senator and as candidate for president. There have been several nominees that have selected running mates with qualities they either are perceived to lack or outright might be a hindrance. Joe Biden himself was chosen because of the trepidation voters would have voting for Barack Obama with very little legislative and foreign policy experience.

Similarly, George Bush selected Dan Quayle because of the perception of his age being a possible barrier to his candidacy. He choose a candidate who not only was much younger, but Vice President Bush selected Quayle as a barometer of his party’s future. Future Republican Presidential nominees John McCain and Mitt Romney selected Sarah Palin and Paul Ryan respectively, also attempting to buoy their age with the future of the party. However, when a potential nominee is selecting a candidate with youth on their side, the immediate worry is to not simply their lack of experience in government, but concern of their ability to be President of the United States if the time comes.

There was little doubt with Barack Obama that Joe Biden could be president if something were to happen. He had twice run national campaigns and had served in the senate for well over 30 years. Governor Bush selected former White House Chief of State, Minority Whip and Secretary of Defense, Dick Cheney as his running mate, someone who he also had confidence in being able to be President if he could not serve. Now, despite inexperience being their impediment, Senator Bob Dole selected Jack Kemp to be his running mate who, like Cheney was a Member of Congress and Cabinet Secretary, but trusted to be able to lead if age were to be an impediment the other way.

Of course the obvious cannot be underscored, the fact that this will only be the third time a woman will be on the ticket for a major party nomination. Sarah Palin of course being the second, but the first was when former Vice President Walter Mondale chose Geraldine Ferraro as his running mate, igniting a under represented demographic in each of those elections. However, Biden isn’t simply interested in the diversity of gender, but also the diversity of race is something he’s pledged to factor into his decision in selected a running mate and administration.

So to put it all together, these are the qualities, questions and considerations that Joe Biden is looking at when he chooses his running mate this week.

Karen Bass
Val Demings
Tammy Duckworth
Kamala Harris
Susan Rice
Elizabeth Warren

Will one of these candidates give him a geographic(or demographic) edge? How will the importance of running a national campaign and having a profile help his nomination? How important is it to unite the party and ignite the base? How important is it to find a running mate that can be a trusted advisor and someone you are comfortable with running a campaign with? Does he need a candidate to reflect the future of the party or should he have a candidate that is ready to lead in his stead? Should all of these factors be considered? Is one more consequential than all others?

Will Joe Biden pick his own Joe Biden for himself or will Joe Biden pick history’s next Aaron Burr?

Black. Pride.

I feel I owe a bit of an explanation behind the name you’re reading. I call this exercise “Your Friendly Neighborhood Black Man” as a play off the wording of catchphrase of the popular comic book character Spider-Man, who often reminds people that he’s your “Friendly Neighborhood Spider-Man.”

More on that later. But in case you don’t know this about me, I’m a pretty huge geek about comics and their culture. One of the reasons why is I think they’re able to tell our story and our history in a way that’s actually a safe medium for people to understand without it being too serious. And one of the better books and characters to ever do this in comics is The Uncanny X-Men. You know the group of superheroes like Wolverine, Storm, Cyclops and Iceman. Now, the thing that makes these superheroes so unique is the qualities of their superpowers. Whereas someone like Spiderman got bit by a spider to mimic their abilities or Superman gains his powers from his strange alien physiology and Iron Man built things and used his mind to make him “super”, the X-Men were born with their special abilities. 

As it has been written in the comics, these heroes, who were collectively called “mutants” by the public at large that often shunned them, were born with certain qualities that made them different. Some of their abilities were rather conspicuous , like Nightcrawler’s blue skin or Angel’s feathery wings, which made them a strange oddity by appearance alone. Other characters had abilities that were more hidden that you couldn’t outwardly see. Jean Grey could move things with her mind but otherwise looked like a normal teenage girl. Rogue, who also looked normal, could kill or injure a person with just a simple touch. Obviously, the characters that looked strange or foreign to regular people were immediate outcast. But those who felt they had to “hide themselves”, their abilities and who they really are from a public that would also shun them if they knew that they were different, walked the same path. They too were “mutants”, ie. people with differences that don’t fit in among regular people.

If you haven’t figured out by now, a kid growing up reading these comic books in the 1960s could gain much more insight on the plight of minorities and marginalized people than their parents would ever assume. While they think they’re reading stories about heroic characters fight against menacing villains, they were learning what it’s like to walk in the shoes of those who society treats different and less than and what it feels like. Obviously, the characters like Nightcrawler and Angel with their appearance tell the story of Black Americans living in a America that refuses to treat them as the Americans that they are. But what about the X-Men characters like Jean Grey and and Rogue who look “normal” but they know they are different and if society found out how different they are, they too would be treated like the other X-Men? What story in the 1960s told their tale?

51 years ago this week, something happened in a bar in Greenwich Village, New York City. During the heyday of mob activity and organized crime, Mafia soldier, “Fat Tony” Lauria bought a rather small and rather dilapidated “Christopher Street Club” pretty cheap. It had no running water at the makeshift bat. No liquor license. The bathrooms hardly worked and the toilets would constantly overflow.  Fat Tony(always seems to be a “Fat Tony” in at least every Mob family) renovated the club, illegally sold alcohol, controlled the sale of cigarettes and even controlled the money made from the jukebox and he reopened the club as a exclusively gay club.  They called it the “Stonewall Inn.”

To keep the police at bay, Fat Tony would have the club managers pay off the police with a $300 weekly bribe. What they got in return was information. As typical with many gay bars in those days, they were raided quite regularly. The Stonewall Inn’s management would be able to get tipped off when raids were imminent and frankly they were done early enough that they hardly interrupted business. They had time to hide their booze, alert patrons and when the raids would happen, patrons would produce identification and police would leave(with their bribe) and the night would continue. But of course, Fat Tony and the mob got greedy and found a new racket out of the Stonewall Inn; extortion. They began to extort some of the more prominent patrons who were not out publicly or those who felt comfort in their gender identity behind the walls of the club. This new income stream quickly began to cut into the kickbacks to the police, which lead to the early morning hours of June 28, 1969.

Different than most raids, this night the Stonewall Inn was raided hours after the time raids typically happened. Not to mention, the managers received no tip off either. Moreover, the police weren’t really prepared to actually conduct the raid and many of the club-goers were practically held in the club with the police without actually being arrested or allowed to leave. Things exploded when the police, who were not only sexually assaulting the gay female patrons and physically assaulting the male patrons, none of which weren’t exactly rare occurrences for patrons at Stonewall, they finally did both to one particular female by whole heaving her forcibly into a police vehicle.  The crowd that had formed outside reacted to the police’s tactics. From there, the police barricaded themselves in the club, the Club itself was practically destroyed and soon, the riot police showed up to further inflame and assault those who were there.  After the press reported on what happened through the night, more protest continued the following days.

The aftermath of the Stonewall Riots was an awakening of yet another segment of America that realized that their rights and dignities were being neglected the mainstream and oppressed by those in power. Like Black America with the Civil Rights Movement and women in the Women’s Liberation Movement, Gay and Lesbian men and women found their cause in Stonewall and spoke up. Quite loudly.

And why shouldn’t they? They are as human as the rest of us. They live, they love, they feel and they exist like the rest of us and are exposed to a society that has and will reject them for doing ANY of that.  Of course they would have a problem with being rejected. And as a person of color, we should understand that as much as anyone.  And that’s the rub.

Over the last few months, we’ve seen this country transform with an awakening of what it’s like to be black in America and what we have to live through. I have had white friends of mine, from ALL walks of life, from the very conservative to the very liberal, personally reach out to me with concern and thoughts of appreciation and empathy.  Many black people have seen our White allies do this.  And honestly, it’s a goddamn shame and embarrassment that the Black Community has not and can not toe the line and stand with the LGBT Community as the White allies have done for us. I mean, I get it. There is an immediacy in Black Lives we’re seeing today. It’s deserving of the attention. But frankly, it shouldn’t have taken a death of a George Floyd, Breonna Taylor or Ahmaud Arbery to awaken the public consciousness of what we go through in America and our Gay brothers and sisters don’t need another Stonewall Riot for us to wake the fuck up to the constant barrage of embarrassment, slights and humiliations they are forced to accept legally or socially by a society that they every right to be a part of as all of us do.

And this is the worst part.  It is physically impossible for White America to walk our path and to know our truth. Apologies to John Howard Griffin, but can only empathize.  Many gay and Transgender men and women are every bit of Black and American as I am. If anything it shouldn’t be that hard to know what it feels like to live a life in society’s margins. Their Black lives matter as much as mine. But with the circumstances of their sexual or gender identity, as well as their racial identity being constantly at odds with the expectations of our societal standards, they EASILY walk a harder path than anything I could EVER experience on my worse day!

Now, I cannot accuse anyone in particular of blatant discrimination, but as clear as I’ve see White Americans step up to the plate for Black Lives, we have to accept the truth in our community, that in our own lives, we have not returned the favor to a community we definitely can and should empathize with. And frankly, it shouldn’t take a shared struggle for us to realize this. And it shouldn’t even have to take us knowing someone who is gay or transgender and wanting them to be happy and safe like you would want for ANYONE who you love and respect. Even that is a disgracefully low bar. Yes, I have gay friends. But damnit, they’re human. That is the standard for which we all should demand dignity and rights. I shouldn’t have to know you to know your life matters.

So, despite the outward appearance of the X-Men’s Nightcrawler and Angel, who can hardly hide who they are, they are still on the same team of Jean Grey and Rogue who are just an action away from being outed as a societal outcast.  They obviously have their differences, but they are still one team. They fight the same fight against ignorance and hate from people who can never understand their path.  Just same, we share some of the very same stressors and microaggressions as the LGBT community. They understand the code-switching and moderating how you sound and act to be more socially accepted. They know what it feels like to not feel welcomed in certain places and with certain people because despite however much they try subjects and behaviors makes it hard to fit in.  They definitely can understand negative and dangerous assumptions of sexuality and state of mind that are way too often thrusted upon us as well.  They can’t help being gay no more than I can help being Black. It’s a part of who I am, as it’s who they are. So why can’t we join them in the fight for the same respect and dignity that they have fought for themselves? How dare we expect White America to join us and our struggle, but we refuse to join the LGBT Community for theirs? Yes, being black in America is hard enough alone. But damnit, we’re not expecting White folks to fight our fight. We just want them to give a shit and respect our lives as much as their own.

That is not a lot to ask. And I, for one, have the capacity to do the same for people I know have the pain of acceptance as I have had in my own life.

We know what they experience is wrong. We know we don’t accept it for ourselves. But we insist on treating them and their lives with the same regard we reject in our own. And that has to stop. Yes we fight different villains. But they all have the same superpower of hate and ignorance. We know how to defend and fight against it. Fight for their team too. Because they are already on ours.